Inspirational life and relationship coach, dynamic speaker, loving wife and mother, ShaKeisha Johnson also known as Coach Keish, dropped a whole gold mine on Friday, August 7th when she shared with Wife HER! members on the basics of respect and practical ways to respect your husband.
ShaKeisha’s focal verse was 1 Peter 3:1-9, chosen because Peter was married and his wife frequently travelled with him as he preached and ministered to people in far places. Peter’s wife exemplified the respect that a wife should have toward her husband, and no doubt was part of the motivation for the verses he penned.
In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your chaste and [a]respectful behavior.
1 Peter 3: 1-2
In discussing 1 Peter 3:1-9, ShaKeisha stated that God receives glory when both husbands and wives have mutual kindness and humility toward each other.
Coach Keish shared 8 power-packed tips for wives that can be applied across all relationship types: mother to son, colleague to colleague, etc.
1. View your husband as a person
Understand that he has feelings too. Try to figure out what motivates your husband and what he enjoys doing. Once you’ve figured it out, do more of the things that he enjoys.
Your respect needs to be personalised.
– ShaKeisha Johnson
2. Celebrate your husband
Highlight the things you love about your husband as often as you can. Celebrate your husband in ways that will make him feel honoured, not necessarily in a way that will make you feel better about yourself. Remember, everyone’s love language is different. Try to love him in his love language, not in yours.
We thrive in conditions of love, acceptance and honour.
– ShaKeisha Johnson
3. Honour the man that he is while you intercede for the man he was born to be
If you have concerns about your husband, take those concerns to God through intercession. God will assist your husband to become the person he was called to be. Continue to encourage him and remind him of who he is through affirmation and honor.
4. Be as gracious with your wisdom as you are with your encouragement
God gave you wisdom not just for work and interacting with different people, but also for you to apply it to your marriage. Use your wisdom to assess what’s working and what’s not working in your marriage and make the necessary adjustments. Take time to know your husband and take an interest in what’s important to him.
Wisdom was meant to be used in our relationships.
– ShaKeisha Johnson
5. Constructive criticism is okay once the goal is to build a better marriage
Be conscious of how your husband responds to criticism. Consider using the sandwich method when you want to critique him on something. The sandwich method is a type of feedback that combines negative feedback with praise.
Be patient as your husband learns that you still love him even when he is not doing things the way you would like.
– ShaKeisha Johnson
6. Respect boundaries
Give your husband the space he needs to do the things that he enjoys.
7. Respect your differences in disciplining methods
As a mother, understand that you and your husband won’t discipline the same way. If there are disagreements between you and your husband, respectfully discuss it away from the children.
Do not expect your husband to father in the same way that you mother.
–ShaKeisha Johnson
8. Respect his right to a different opinion in the same way you expect him to respect yours
It is important to understand that you won’t agree on everything. You should be able to respect him even when you have differing opinions.
Honour the person that your husband is and you will reap the reward because that honour will be extended to you.
– ShaKeisha Johnson
Coach Keish truly came with a message! Missed the session? Be sure to catch the replay below.
The Focus of The Month for August is Relationships: Respecting Your Husband. You can check out this month’s focus Bible text and video here.
Make sure you’re tuned in this week for another insightful discussion on Respect. Join the Wife HER Facebook group so that you can stay updated.
For more inspiration from ShaKeisha, like her Facebook page and follow her on Instagram @shakeishajohnson.
Which one of Shakeisha’s tips stood out to you?
Which one will you try to work on this week?
Let us know in the comments!
